A stranger's kind words

Tonight I reached out.

Tonight I wrote an email to a stranger. Today I told someon about the silly mundane problem that was plauging my heart and really tearing me down. Not the big issues, not the brokeness, just the silly little things we call life. This is what she wrote back.



You honestly remind me a lot of myself.

But I'm also 18, and my best friend is a just-turned 18 year old boy in high school, who I'm madly in love with.

I've been where you've been. And it's hell. I woke up every morning thinking exactly what you're thinking: "If he can't love me, who will? Who can I depend on if not him?"

I'm not going to tell you that there will always be other boys. Because I know that won't mean a damn thing to you. He's all you want, all you need. He makes it easier just to live, to breathe, to BE.

But if you're as madly in love with him as I am with mine, I can honestly say that friendship isn't a good plan. Because you'll know you're not his everything. And that will eat you alive for the next forever. You need to find the strength to move beyond him.

This boy of mine is my boyfriend. We started dating last February. But in October, he left me. For another girl. And it destroyed me. And I felt like if I couldn't rely on him to be my everything, well then who could I rely on? But that changes. And it takes a LOT of time, and effort, and a lot of lies to yourself. You have to make yourself believe that you don't ACTUALLY need him like you think you do. And after a while, you start to believe it.

But there's something you don't need to lie about: You ARE worth someone's time. You're worth EVERYONE'S time. And just because that boy doesn't like you, doesn't mean others won't. You're beautiful. You're intelligent. You're deep. All you need to do is find the people who can and will appreciate that. And you'll find them.

My advice? Maybe try not talking to each other for a couple of weeks. If you're falling for him, and he isn't falling right there with you, maybe wean yourself off of him. Talking to him will only make it worse.
It helped me. Maybe it'll do the same for you.

And again, Tori, you're a wonderful person. You'll never be "just second best". Not to everyone. There's someone out there waiting for you to take that "top priority" ranking in their listing. Go find him and end his search.

:) <3




Even though she doesn't fully understand the situation, and how God plays a huge part in mine and how I can't possibly move on; just knowing that I am not alone helps so much. Just knowing that some stranger cared enough to write me back. That changes things