Loving on Purpose

Almost a year later, I finally get it. :) This website came up on facebook:

http://dtr.lovingonpurpose.com/

It was meant for young adults who are either in relationships or who are preparing to be in them. As I was reading through the introduction one sentence struck me, it was that this series is meant to impart COURAGE. Courage to either move forward in a relationship or the courage to walk away. And it was the courage to walk away part that really stuck with me.

Last year I was obsessed with being in a relationship. I wanted to just be with someone for the popularity, security, and friendship it brought. But there was no future for it. It was just for fun. I didn't realize that in every aspect of every relationship (with family, freinds, ect) you share a little bit of yourself. In order for a relationshp to grow you have to share more and more. Sharing your hopes, dreams, veiws about God, time together, ect. But you share peices of yourself. And if you aren't careful you can end up in a place that is not a good place for you to be.

Last school year / summer I had a friendshp with a guy that was growing very fast. We clicked very well and had some great times together.But I was completely unaware. Before I knew it I found us very close and in a place emotionally where I was not prepared to be. I was young, and I wanted a relationship for all of the wrong reasons. However, I wasn't the one to realize this. The friend of mine who was equally as young was the one to realize that this was not a good place for us to be. I can't tell you what he was thinking but I am assuming that somewhere in that line it took him a lot of courage. Even if it was only because I was just a little emotionally unstable at the time. But it was a very good decision.

This brings me to the title, loving on purpose. Maybe it is just because I am geting older and begining to understand life better but I know that for most of my life I didn't love on purpose. I loved because it was what everyone else was doing, because it gave you a social status, because it felt right; But I was not looking at it as what God designed any sort of community for. God wants us to be able to expeirience his love and qualties in the community of frienships and relationships. And the idea of loving on purpose, the purpose that God designed is so freeing.